Saturday, December 20, 2008

Are You Suffering from Mental Obesity?

By Andrea Kite

I was surprised to learn that the words mental obesity had been ascribed as the intellectual laziness and disinterest resulting when children's minds are addicted to junk information at the time that I was coming up with a name for my article. This could include such things as video games, chat rooms and text messages. I use the term mental obesity to refer to something else entirely; a very common phenomenon that I myself have experienced.

Many people who have previously been overweight or obese continue seeing themselves as such in their mind. Their weight loss could be 15, 30, 40 pounds and maybe more. It doesn't matter. A once overweight or obese woman who wears a size six dress is often, in her mind, still obese. This is the phenomenon that I call mental obesity.

Once it has taken root, it is very difficult to shed this belief. It is also something the mentally obese person is often ashamed to admit, embarrassed to say aloud. On one level, the now slim person is perfectly aware that she or he is no longer obese. Scales and clothing sizes will certify this evidence. Higher energy levels and new physical prowess confirm it every day. Yet on a completely other, irrational, level the mentally obese person knows he or she is still obese, still overweight.

If you are mentally obese you understand that you have physically lost the weight, however you still feel as though you're obese. In addition you realize quickly that you can't express this feeling. More than likely when the people around you are overweight and you aren't. You know you are being ridiculous. You realize others will think you are fishing for compliments. You might make the same accusation if the roles were reversed. It is important to hold your tongue. However, in your mind your obesity is still there.

Nowhere to turn, mentally obese persons have. Despite buying new clothes, they tend to continue to dress as they did before losing the weight. In the closet is where the skimpy new clothes stay. Mentally obese people have trouble getting up to dance in a crowded room. A side view is still preferable for photographs. They are still terrified of looking at photos or home videos of themselves.

The most difficult aspect of being mentally obese may be the extreme loneliness that accompanies it. You can be just as lonely with mental obesity when you used to gasp for air up one flight of stairs as someone else passes you. If you believe yourself to be obese you will probably be pulling your shirt down to cover your behind as you walk up a staircase.

Losing a considerable amount of weight necessitates a period of adjustment and the adoption of a new life style is not a simple matter. If you can't see yourself as thin despite the weight loss-please seek help. Seek out the appropriate person with whom to discuss your situation such as your family doctor if you have one. - 15343

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